Hers is a fascinating and poignant story of loss: two children (one to SIDS, the other to suicide) and her marriage.  Her message came through in many ways, as she helped the group find new tools to deal with their emotions and, in the process, set them free.  Which leads us to the title of this blog post. It's when we're in a raw state that we can actually feel the sense of loss that we have to feel before we can move on in a healthy way. But so much of society is in a cooked state -- nicely processed and firm on the outside -- not able to feel anything. We have to get to a raw state again in order to feel.